I woke-up recently, and after taking a good look at myself I realized something empowering: I realized I needed to get some S.E.X.Y. in my life.

That might sound rather provocative for someone in my position (no, not that position). But it was the truth. I really needed to find my S.E.X.Y.

As I look around, I have to admit that I see many people who have also lost their S.E.X.Y. The problem is, how do you tell someone that? How do you say, 'Hey You! You need a little S.E.X.Y. in your life!" Something tells me I would get more than just a raised eyebrow with that comment.

Now that I have your attention...

I believe there is nothing more sexy than a person who lives in Empowerment: A person who is comfortable in their own skin; lives their life on purpose (without apology); and actively knows and pursues their Joy - a Joy that is uniquely theirs.

On the flip side, I believe there is absolutely nothing S.E.X.Y. about a person living in emotional pain. Meaning:

- There is nothing sexy about a life dimmed because of the chains of depression.
- There is nothing sexy about a life blocked because of the trauma wounds of abuse.
- There is nothing sexy about going crazy in love (instead of enjoying the passion of love).
- There is nothing sexy about a life rooted in the panic of anxiety, or the fear of financial destruction.
- There is nothing sexy about living a life shadowed by a low self-esteem.
- And certainly there is nothing sexy about defaulting on our dreams and our destiny because of past emotional pain (that only screws-up our present existence).

Like I said, I believe empowerment IS S.E.X.Y. I also believe it is something we all have and best of all something we all deserve. The question then is, what exactly is S.E.X.Y. and how do we go about getting it?

ELFISH:
Selfish is a love word. Centered in self-love, self-care and self-esteem, the truth is that we cannot experience authentic love, or our life's passions without it. Selfish is not narcissism that screams 'I expect the world to be all about me!' Instead, Selfish says, "I love Me, and I commit to embracing and discovering what that looks, feels and sounds like."

MPOWERED:
Empowerment means tools. In order to live an empowered life we must find the missing tools we never got, so we can build, repair and often times reinvent our life. Without tools life becomes clogged and blocked. Without tools, life just simply becomes difficult. WITH TOOLS however, love and life become our magical drawing board. With tools we possess the power and skills to create our life into anything we desire it to be.

EACT:
Living Exact means having a clear understanding who we are (and who we are not) and clearly knowing what our mission and life plan is. MEMO FROM NORMAL LAND: It is not our job to make other people comfortable with us. It is not our job to default on our life or abandon our dreams because others don't approve or understand. Instead we are to discover our path, commit to our journey, live our journey (without apology or confusion) and trust that the people who REALLY love us will embrace our journey as much as we do.

JO:
We all only have one purpose in life. That purpose is to live in Joy. That simply means we are to fall in love with life and experience the things that make us say, "I LOVE THIS!" We are to enjoy this journey called life. Once we learn that, the rest of it falls into place.

And to think... to live a life of empowerment, the only thing we have to do is learn to live in S.E.X.Y. I like it when life is so simple.